Yes, the us against them thing is overblown.
I get it most from the OS4 fanatics, and not all OS4 users are that fanatical (some of our posters have copies of that).
And I need to remember that I have some friends in both of the other two "camps" (heck, there are four factions if you count the legacy only guys/gals).

The purchase of FinalWriter was a pretty cool move.
I am definitely in favor of native apps.
The Linux ports like Firefox or OpenOffice just slow us down further.

One thread I see in not just my life, but everyone's in general, is a need to be less confrontational and more open.

I was a little biased against AROS by my earlier experiences (but then, all Amiga OS related projects were a slight challenge for me originally, I am NOT a "native" to this environment).
Once the drivers progressed a bit more, and especially after I saw some of the cool OpenGL demos (GLxcess in particular) I have too admit, I have definitely grown in my appreciation of the OS.

Then there are the bounty programs (some promoted by Bill Buck's Power2people organization), hey successful funding...cool.